No minority has gotten to where they are today through apathy or appeasement, so even insinuating that equity can be achieved without confrontation spurs on my ire like nothing else.

You cannot and will never dismantle systemic oppression by bolstering the divide with weasel words or operating within your oppressor's schedule. This is a problem you can't kiss and hug away; it needs all hands on deck tearing away millennia of detritus.